Discover Youself

Discover yourself and follow your heart...

Life has never promised you anything nor did destiny,
but people in life did promised you,
some said they would never leave your hand,....LIE...!
some said they would LOVE you until death.....LIE...!
some said you were the most precious one.........LIE...!
Life is made up of such beautiful lies...
All that matter is, how you faced the time....
with passing of time you finally realized those were just LIES...
The only question we ask to ourselves,
"Would life be much better without these lies....???"

But the truth is, the time you live on those big lies were the only time you lived...

Relationships done Wrong

While we are the generation which is regarded as break up done wrong. Ever wonder what is the reason for such breaks up, mental trauma.
Let me tell you few instances where we go wrong in life, the reason why we end up on note of break up in relationship.

Look around yourself and see how many people are settling in..?? Probably, a HELL lot of. People settle into Okay relationships, Okay jobs, Okay friendships, and most importantly Okay life.
I WONDER why only Okay..?? Why not something you deserve. Probably because OKAY is comfortable.... Okay pay bills, it provides warm bed at night.

Many people are fine with okay...and that's Okay.
I tell you okay is not passion, it's not life changing or unforgettable. OKAY is just another reason why you don't want to risk absolutely and everything you got for the smallest change that something absolutely amazing could happen.

Don't settle for okay, love hurts. No, love doesn't hurt, wrong love does, wrong lover hurts. Don't accept something normal and live normal life. Except more, demand more and live more. 

Now where is the problem, why we make fault while choosing the right person..??

Do you know the worst thing a man can do to a women in life..?
It is making her fall in love with you when you have no intentions of loving her back. When you have no intention of loving the girl, it just you find attractive and want to date, and look Macho in society coz you have girlfriend. Than please stay away, you are at wrong place. Men are of manners and chivalry. They know how to treat a women. They are kind and witty and stay loyal in both friendship and love.

And guess what women's mistake is, they choose wrong men and paint all the men as demons. Ladies out there, if your eyes can't see beyond a beard and biceps, then you deserve eyes full of water. There is so much more to men than what camera captures. Don't love a eye feast love a soul food.

You can't cheat on someone if you are in love with them, you just can't do it, you wouldn't even consider doing it. If you can cheat on someone you claim to be in love with, you are not in love, you are just in love with the idea of being in love.  

LOVE is just a rope of sand, in the generation of dates, where people mingle to get dates... True love has lost it's place.

When we date, we search for looks, style, body etc.... How many you have looked for good heart..??
The problem with good heart people is they see best in you when you don't need them. When you are at worst, they will lift you up, keeping aside their priorities. For them the word 'busy' doesn't exist only... They will make time for you, even when you don't make for them. And you wonder why they are more sensitive and caring people.  They are willing to give so much of themselves with no expectation in return and you think their existence isn't that essential to your well being.. 

Just coz they don't make you work hard for the attention they give you. They accept the love they think they have earned and you accept the love you think you are entitled to.

I'll tell you one thing the day the good heart will give up on you, your skies will turn dark, you'll miss the sunshine in your life, and your world will turn numb. Remember a heart does not turn cold until it's been treated with coldness for a while.

Don't choose people in life with just the outside looks or money or style, just it makes the person looks attractive doesn't mean it's LOVE.... A good book never reveals its secret in once, and you can never judge a book by its cover.

Attraction is a temporary love and love is permanent attraction, just the matter of words but makes a big difference in life.

Just don't enter any relationship just with the idea of being in LOVE.... Don't look for love,  let love find you, that's why it is called falling in love, coz you just fall. 

Value of Every Relation

One poem which makes us think over and above every relation we are holding, just read and understand the depth of the words.

When I'll be dead.....,
Your tears will flow...,
But I won't know...
Cry for me now instead!!


You will send flowers...,
But I won't see...,
Send them now instead!!


You'll forget my faults...,
But I won't know...,
Forget them now instead!!


You'll miss me then...,
But I won't feel...,
Miss me now instead!!


You'll wish..,
You could have spent more time with me...,
Spend it now instead!!

In life, we never value the things we have until we lost them it is correctly said we never value things which we have coz we think we won't lose them but the day we lose them, the day the thing has left us, the day we realize the value and importance of that particular thing in our life. It might be small or it might be big...the most importantly the relations we hold be it with parents, sister-brothers, relatives, friends or any stranger you meet in your life, everyone has a role to play be it big or small. Certainly in our life sometimes we give too much importance to things that we forget that there are people who belong to you, they love you, probably you might mean everything to them, they are fighting for you every day, they are living for you, they make your dream as theirs. Do you believe that there are no accidents in life?? Everything happens for a reason. Every person we meet will have a role in our lives, be it big or be it small. Some will hate, betray and make us cry.To become stronger. Some will teach us lessons, not to change us, but for us to realize our mistakes and to help us grow and make us a better person. And some would simply inspire and love us to make us happy. In this race what we forget is we make our Ego so loud that we forget to care for those who cared for you, those who stand by you in every situation just to make sure that you are having everything that is required. Don't hurt those people in your life..!! Let us take a situation,

Yeah I Know You TEXTED or SEND a message To Someone TODAY But You Got NO REPLY Right? Message Got Delivered To That Person And Definately He or she Saw It but Didnt Reply.
When you log in on FACEBOOK you See Them Updating Status....When You See Them on WhatsApp YOU see THEM online..Then You wonder Who Are they texting. Why Cant
He or she Reply me?, You ask yourself what DID I do WRONG?. It HURTS so Much Being Ignored By That person You like or love With FULL Heart....But Did You Know They Are Facing same PROBLEM as YOU? They are BUSY chasing Those they LOVE or LIKE. They have also been texting and get no reply Just Like you? Yeah of course They Going Through The Same But We
Are Here Blaming each Other Over nothing STRESSING OVER nothing THINKING over someone who is busy Thinking over someone else.  We do not sustain what we have; yet, If you talk to anyone around, you will realize that strained relationship are the most common source of worry....!!!!

You never know while you were busy with other especially who never valued you, you'll loose one who always valued you and was always afraid to loose you. Don't be with, a person who decides to comeback be with one who never leaves you. The reason I am saying this is the person will never realize the value of yours in their life until you leave, the day you leave the person will realize the value and the person who never left you always knew your importance your value while you were busy chasing other... tring to bring back that person in your life, you didn't realize that there was one who valued you and you lost them. You'll realize the difference in value when both the person one whom you are chasing and other who is chasing you both has left your side. Sometimes you never know the true value of moment until it becames memories. Eventually, you begin to realize that life is too short and your powers to teach, influence or heal is limited. You finally accept that their emptiness, pain, dysfunction requires more than you have to give. You can't handle your whole life and soul to someone who doesn't even care about their own. Letting go is excruciating heartbreak; mourning the death of what once was. If you did someone let go, and you still have guilt, it's time to forgive yourself and begin to heal yourself. If it is a time to let someone go, for their sake, or for yours, then this may be confirmation, as the saying goes: "Dead people receive more flower than living people coz regret is stronger than gratitude.". 
 

The search for LOVE

The four letter word LOVE, probably the most powerful word in the world. A magical word which has the potentiality to overcome all worries, problems of life. The energy that is present in word LOVE perhaps the most powerful it can make you do things which are next to impossible, it can move mountains and make miracles. No one can actually define the power of love, we live in life where we are constantly looking for the love in one or the other relation, so many of us are looking for that love, yet we often miss one of the most obvious places to find Love -- ofcourse within ourselves. The problem with the people are  they are surrounded by the people who love them but they don't value them when they are close to them, they look for love in those places where they know they won't get that but they forget the love people are showering on them, it's true we are too busy in collecting stones that we forget that there were diamond as well.
The question comes what is the factor that tells you yes that's the person whom you were looking for..

1.  They treat you with respect.
   
   Love without respect seldom survives. They love you but more than that, they respect you, your choices and who you are as a person.They don’t demean, insult or undermine you in any way. In fact, they look up to you, just like you look up to them!
   
2. He gives you your space…
   
   They don’t go all Sherlock Holmes on your Facebook account or your Whatsapp or anywhere else for that matter. They give you the space you need and doesn’t feel the need to quiz you about your whereabouts or your company every time you go out without him.
   
3.  But sometimes also gets a tad jealous. It’s kinda cute!
   
   When they see a guy/girl hitting on you or eyeing you admiringly they get little pangs of jealousy which they try to hide, but fails to, most of the time. You know they trust you and that this is just a natural feeling to have. It’s sweet, isn’t it?
   
4. They get along with your bestie and remembers his/ her birthday!
   They know this person means the world to you and they make an effort to get along with him/ her. They are thoughtful when it comes to remembering his/ her birthday or selecting a gift for him/ her. Your bestie gets along with him well and that’s saying something!
   
5. They listen.
   
   Really listens. They don’t surf the web or go through his WhatsApp while you are talking to him. He gives you honest answers and offers an unbiased opinion when you need him to. Else he is just happy to be there for you too!
   
6. The person’s seen you do the weirdest of things (literally) and he still thinks you’re awesome!
   
   Yup, he’s helped you wash your face after you threw up after binge-drinking at a party, he’s seen you throw a tantrum after a tough day at work, cry when you’re too tired, shout when you’ve had a fight with your mom or bestie, and even eat like a pig. And guess what? It doesn’t bother him!
   
   
7. There is no room for petty power games, no tug of war of egos. Woohoo!
   
   Insecurity? Jealousy? What are those? Your man never lets you feel in the least bit like you have to compete for his attention. Whether he’s out for lunch with his (super-hot) co-worker or drinks with a female friend, you know you have nothing to worry about. He makes it super clear to you and to everyone else where his heart really lies.
   
8. Being supportive of your dreams and aspirations could be his job at this point - probably your dreams are his/her now!! 
   
   You love heavy metal and they don’t know the first word about it... But they will still get you concert tickets because they love you. They do not undermine your career choices in any way and in fact, encourages you to do what you love!
   
9. The person will be like your very own backup army, yet he isn’t afraid of being brutally honest with you. 
   
   He never wants to hurt your feelings, but he’s not afraid of calling you out when you’re wrong. And if someone is doing you wrong in any way at all, it infuriates him almost as much as it upsets you. He knows you’re capable of taking care of yourself, but he has made it amply clear to you that he’s right there if you need backup!  
   
10. Making random plans for the future that include him? NOT a problem.
    
    words like ‘we’ and ‘our’ instead of  ‘I’ and ‘my’. This little thing actually means a LOT, trust us.  
    
11. Your friends sometimes crack jokes about being ready to pay you to say you’ve have had enough of each other.
    
    You don’t even know what that means, really, because when you’re together, you always have an amazing time. You could be staying in and watching a movie, out for dinner or a crazy night about town - or just sitting together and doing your own thing in complete silence. Whatever the scenario, you can’t think of a better partner to have.
    
12. They are not afraid of letting their guard down with you.
    
    Whether it's discussing how tough things have been at work lately, talking about his deepest fears or confessing his truest feelings for you, he isn’t being at all shy or reserved and hiding his more sensitive side from you. Trust us, that’s pretty rare! 
     
13. They make sure to let you know (at least once in a while) how important you are to him/her.
    
    If you like getting flowers randomly - he’ll get you some; you love hand-written cards or letters - even if it’s a one-liner, he has tried; you love sightseeing - guess who's up at 7 a.m. on a Sunday to do just that with you? He does things, big or small, to let you know that you’re on his mind and that you mean something to him.  
    
14. They never make you second-guess his feelings for you.
    
    He lets you and the world know you’re his girl. You never have to worry about him hiding that part of his life from anyone or going behind your back to hurt your feelings. He is what he is - right in front of you and everyone else.
    
    
15. Even if they don't say it all the time, they really mean the words ‘I love you’ when they say them.
    
    
    Go give him/her a hug already! He's really, really does love you a lot.

  

45 Truths About People, Relationships, And The Roller coaster Of Life

Life, with its many twists and turns, cannot be compared to any other solitary thing. Life is too deep, wide, strange, evocative, breathtaking, challenging, and remarkable to be like anything that exists inside it.
During times of joy, it is easy to see the upsides of life. We celebrate as an infusion of fresh life and energy is added to our sphere of existence. Graduating school, obtaining a new job, getting married, finding an amazing new group of friends, moving to a new town, getting promoted, and completing a massive passion project are some of the important events we may experience in life. Life is certainly a gift — the greatest gift of all.
However, if we’re being honest with ourselves, there are just as many heartbreaking and motivation-weakening moments in life as there are good times. At least, the hard moments hit us as strongly as the great ones do. It can be hard to bounce back from a defeat, loss, or betrayal, even for the most resilient of individuals.
Life gets ugly sometimes. Life can be painful — extremely painful, even. We lose things we never thought would disappear. We encounter obstacles we never imagined would stand in our way. We walk away from agonizing conversations we never thought we’d have to be a part of.
Life becomes a battle. It’s a daily choice between good and better, action and laziness, clarity and confusion, hope and hopelessness. We don’t always know if we’re going to make it out, or how far we’ll get at all. We lean on our most trusted of friends and family to provide what strength they can for us, and we swear to ourselves we’ll repay them with goodness when our time comes.
We press on into the unknown, giving uncertainties our best shot and taking action with what we’ve been given. Life is about finding honest ways to triumph over our struggles, and sharing that beauty with others. Here are 43 quotes and truths about people, relationships and the roller coaster of life.

1. Be A Voice 

Be a voice, not an echo: speak what you feel don't repeat what others say.

2. Don’t Be Afraid Of Being Different

Don't be afraid of being different, be afraid of being the same as everyone else.
People laugh at me because I'm different, I laugh at them because all are same.

3. Courage Doesn’t Mean You Don’t Get Afraid

Courage doesn't mean you don't get afraid. Courage means you don't let fear stop you.

4. Loving People For Who They Are

Love people for who they are and not for who you want them to be. That's where the disconnection starts.

5. When The Going Gets Tough, The Tough Get Going

You never really know the true quality of someone's character until the road gets rocky. 

6. Some Walks You Have To Take Alone

Some walks you have to take alone.

7. If Life Can Remove A Loved One…

"If life can remove someone you never dreamed of losing, it can replace them with someone you never dream of having."

8. Knowing Your Own Darkness

Knowing your own darkness is the best method for dealing with the darkness of other people.

9. Being You

We meet no ordinary people in our lives. If you give them a chance, Everyone has something amazing to offer.

10. Sensitivity

"I've finally accepted that sensitive is just how I was made. I don't have to change that; I don't have to fix something that's not broken."

11. Integrity

 No matter how educated, talented, rich or cool you believe you are, how you treat people ultimately tells all. Integrity is everything.

12. Be Somebody

Be somebody who makes everybody feel like a somebody.

13. Be Strong

Be strong, But not rude.

Be kind, But not weak.

Be bold, But not bully.

Be humble, But not timid.

Be proud, But not arrogant.

14. The Best Kind Of Love

The best love is the one that makes you a better person, without changing you into someone other than yourself.

15. You Are Always Responsible For How You Act

You are always responsible for how you act no matter how you feel. REMEMBER THAT!

16. You Do Not Find The Happy Life

You do not find the happy life - you make it.

17. There’s No Need To Be Perfect

There's no need to be perfect to inspire others. Let people get inspired by how you deal with your imperfections.

18. The Most Desired Gift Of Love

The most desired gift of Love is not diamond or roses or chocolates. It is focused attention.

19. Sometimes It’s Hard To Do This

Sometimes it's hard to open your hand, but you need to..

20. Respect Is Earned

Respect is earned. 

Honesty is appreciated.

Trust is gained.

Loyalty is returned.

21. Everything In Life Is Easier When You Do This

Everything in life is easier when you don't concern yourself with what everybody else is doing.

22. Your Life Only Gets Better When You Do This

Your life will only gets better when you do work on yourself and the rest will follow.

23. Don’t Find Someone That’s Perfect

Don't find someone that's perfect; find someone that makes you feel that way. 

24. Never Sacrifice These Three Things

Never sacrifice these three things,

YOUR FAMILY,

YOUR HEART,
YOUR DIGNITY.

25. Pick Your Battles

Pick your battles. You don't have to show up to every arguments you're invited to.

26. Life Doesn’t Have To Be Perfect

Life doesn't have to be perfect. It's meant to be beautiful.

27. A Strong Woman Does This

A strong women accepts both compliments and criticism graciously, knowing that it takes both sun and rain for a flower to grow.

28. We All Make Time For These Things In Life

We all make time for what we feel is important in our lives.

29. Don’t Fear Your Enemies

Don't fear the enemy that attacks you, but the fake friend that hugs you.

30. People Will Judge You By Your Actions

People will judge you by your actions, not your intentions. You may have a heart of gold, but so does a hard-boiled egg.

31. This Is The Greatest Cruelty

The greatest cruelty is our casual blindness to the despair of others.

32. Time Decides Who You Meet In Your Life

Time decides who you meet in life, your heart decides who you want in your life, and your behaviors decides who stays in your life.

33. I’m Stronger Because I Had To Be

I'm strong b'coz I had to be,

I'm smarter b'coz of my mistakes,

Happier b'coz of my sadness I've known,

and Now wiser b'coz I learned.

34. Not Everyone Thinks The Way You Think

Not everyone thinks the way you think, knows the things you know, believes the things you believe nor acts the way you would act. Remember this and you will go a long way in getting along with people.

35. Never Explain yourself to anyone

Never explain yourself to anyone because the person who likes you doesn’t need it and the person who dislikes you won’t believe it.

36. If You Want Something You Never Had…

If you want to have something you never had you've got to do something you've never done. Remember For everything that you have missed,you have gained something else,and for everything you gain,you lose something.It is about your outlook towards life,You can either regret or rejoice .The price of discipline is always less than the pain of regret,Self discipline is the biggest investment for success in life.

37. Pick Your Five Favorite Books

Picking five favorite books is like picking the five body parts you'd most like not to lose.

38. Sometimes You’ve Got To Be Able To Listen To Yourself

Sometimes you've got to be able to listen to yourself and be okay with no one else understanding.

39. Change Your Own Circumstances

Change your own circumstances instead of expecting your circumstances to be changed by someone else.

40. 3 Types Of People To Surround Yourself With

3 types of people to surround yourself with:

1) The inspired

2) The excited
3) The grateful 

8 Signs It’s Time To Break Up With A Friend

8 Signs It’s Time To Break Up With A Friend (Even If You Feel Deeply Sorry)

Deciding whether or not to break up with a friend can feel like a roller-coaster ride of emotions. Yet when considered logically, it could clearly be the healthiest choice.
As we go through life, we naturally make new acquaintances and form friendships with a select few. While we put great importance on carefully choosing who we let in, we should remember to cut ties with those who start to drag us down.
It’s really nothing to feel ashamed of. Naturally, people change and you may find yourselves in totally different places. Don’t assume that friends must always be forever, at times it simply can’t be fixed or reconciled. Sometimes you’ve got to consider your own long-term happiness and keep your social circle lean.
It can be a painful experience a friendship changes for the worst, but there’s no need to prolong the hurt. If your relationship possesses any of these eight indicators, it may be time gracefully part ways!

1. Your Relationship Has Become One-Sided

If your relationship has fallen off-balance and shows no sign of returning, it’s likely they don’t value you as you do them. Constantly having to pursue a friend without much return is terrible, it can even harm your self-worth.
If you’ve let your friend know and it still hasn’t made a difference, quit wasting your energy and let them go!

 

2. Manipulating and Controlling Behavior Runs Rampant

Stop to reflect on your relationship for a second, have you lost sight of being the real you? If you feel you’re no longer being authentic, relationship toxicity will be building up. Consider whether you or your friend manipulating each other, and why?
Healthy friendships are about sharing the depth of our character, not exploiting each other. If this is the case, it may be time to reassess the whole relationship.

 

3. They Are Dragging You Down With Them

Are you starting to feel guilty by association? If your friend has a questionable character or behavior, you may want to consider how it reflects back upon you. If they regularly exhibit bullying behavior, others may start to see you in the same light. Or worse yet, it may start to bring out the bully in you!
You’ve got to be careful with who you align or associate yourself with, you may pick up their qualities and mannerisms too.

4. There’s Spiteful Jealous and Furious Competition Between You

Your friendship is well on truly on the rocks if you find yourselves in bouts of jealousy and ruthless one-upping. The constant need to prove yourselves to each other is exhausting rather than comforting.
Remember, friendships should be empowering and encouraging not antagonizing!

5. The Best Thing Between You is History

Sometimes, we find ourselves holding onto lifelong friends for little more than the rich history. But what’s the point of holding on if the only positive part is a recollection of a childhood friendship. You’re now living in the present, where you, your friend and life may be radically different.

The last thing you want to do is hold onto stale relationships purely out of historic honor!

 

6. They No Longer Contribute Anything Positive to Your Life

Sometimes we’ve simply got to stand up for ourselves. If someone does nothing but bring us down, we must respect ourselves enough to let them go. Friends should be a natural extension of your life, as you should be to theirs.
Whether it’s cheering each other up, spurring each other on or even just having a laugh together. Everyone contributes something different, but make sure it’s positive!

 

7. The Negative Situations Over-Shadow the Positive Ones

If the bad has begun to outweigh the good, it’s likely your friendship is beginning to sour. A friendship should be mutually beneficial and make both of you happy, not provoke emotional situations or altercations.
While an occasional fallout is quite common, having consistent problems is a strong indicator of incompatibility.

8. They Are Chipping Away At Your Self-Esteem

True friends provide a crucial support system for each other, especially within the associated stresses of modern living. Whenever either one has problems, troubles or doubts, their buddies will rally to provide moral support. This single most important aspect of friendships is raising each other’s self-esteem.
Breaking up with a friend is never easy, but if they are working against your self-confidence and causing you to doubt yourself, it’s definitely time to jump ship!

Love Yourself First, Or No One Else Will

It’s natural to want to be loved by someone else, and to share your love with others. However, so many people are so eager to please those around them and to remain in a relationship at all costs that they lose sight of themselves and can barely muster up the energy required grant themselves approval, let alone love.
This is a tragedy as you must love yourself before loving another. Remember, no healthy person wants a co-dependent partner who relies on them for self-validation. Everyone, whether single or not, should aim to be comfortable with themselves and learn how to practice self-love. Read on for some inspiring quotes that will help you along your path to greater self-love.

1. “Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.” – Lucille Ball

Depending on other people for approval is a risky strategy. Sure, when others gift us with love and approval it can seem easy to power through all of life’s challenges. However, if and when this approval is withdrawn (as it may be for many reasons), your self-esteem and drive will evaporate unless you can fall back upon self-love. Set your own goals and prove to yourself that you can meet them without approval or input from outside sources.

2. “Self-care is never a selfish act—it is simply good stewardship of the only gift I have, the gift I was put on earth to offer to others.” – Parker Palmer

If you lead a busy life, putting everyone else’s needs before your own can become a regular habit. However, if you don’t tend to your basic needs (relaxation, exercise, time alone, a good diet, time for fun), you will end up resenting others around you. This robs you of the opportunity to not only love yourself, but to form healthy relationships with others. Work out what you need to be happy, and concentrate on meeting them on your own terms.

3. “A man cannot be comfortable without his own approval.”

Even if you are in a relationship, without self-love you will struggle to appreciate compliments and praise give to you by your partner. This is because those who do not love themselves typically have a poor self-image, and so will not believe that others could think well of them. Being single is a great time in which to develop feelings of true self-love. If and when someone comes along with whom you can share your life, their approval will simply be an additional source of happiness.

5 Questions You Must Answer to Find Your True Path in Life

For many people out there, walking the path of life is not much different than exploring uncharted territories. Many of us stop from time to time and ask ourselves questions such as: “Am I doing this right? How is, what I’m doing, contributing to others or me? How do I know that this is what has to be done? If not, is there a guide I can read and memorize?”
These questions are pretty much similar to those trying to reveal the answer that lays behind true happiness. If you are hoping to get a straight answer, you will get disappointed. Life is not that simple to be defined in just one sentence. If you would like to get to know yourself better and be able to find your true path in life here are some questions you will have to find answers to.

1. Why Do You Want to Find Your True Path in Life?

One thing is clear, you want to bring some changes to your life. Being honest about why you want to achieve that can provide you with a powerful incentive that will drive you towards your goals. Write down the things that cross your mind when you think of your whys.
Your reasons should be important only for you. You are a unique person with unique needs and wishes. There is no better way to learn responsibility, but to try and make your own spot in this world. Be open to ask for help and accept it, this way you can strengthen your commitment. You can always consider talking with a psychologist. Together, you can work on setting attainable goals and work on possible issues that are preventing you from taking the first step.

2. What Activities Make You Lose Yourself in Time?

Can you recall the time when you were a child and when your parents literally had to drag you from something you were doing? That child is still somewhere deep inside of you. If you want to give true meaning and purpose to your life it is time to wake it up.