Love Yourself First, Or No One Else Will

It’s natural to want to be loved by someone else, and to share your love with others. However, so many people are so eager to please those around them and to remain in a relationship at all costs that they lose sight of themselves and can barely muster up the energy required grant themselves approval, let alone love.
This is a tragedy as you must love yourself before loving another. Remember, no healthy person wants a co-dependent partner who relies on them for self-validation. Everyone, whether single or not, should aim to be comfortable with themselves and learn how to practice self-love. Read on for some inspiring quotes that will help you along your path to greater self-love.

1. “Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.” – Lucille Ball

Depending on other people for approval is a risky strategy. Sure, when others gift us with love and approval it can seem easy to power through all of life’s challenges. However, if and when this approval is withdrawn (as it may be for many reasons), your self-esteem and drive will evaporate unless you can fall back upon self-love. Set your own goals and prove to yourself that you can meet them without approval or input from outside sources.

2. “Self-care is never a selfish act—it is simply good stewardship of the only gift I have, the gift I was put on earth to offer to others.” – Parker Palmer

If you lead a busy life, putting everyone else’s needs before your own can become a regular habit. However, if you don’t tend to your basic needs (relaxation, exercise, time alone, a good diet, time for fun), you will end up resenting others around you. This robs you of the opportunity to not only love yourself, but to form healthy relationships with others. Work out what you need to be happy, and concentrate on meeting them on your own terms.

3. “A man cannot be comfortable without his own approval.”

Even if you are in a relationship, without self-love you will struggle to appreciate compliments and praise give to you by your partner. This is because those who do not love themselves typically have a poor self-image, and so will not believe that others could think well of them. Being single is a great time in which to develop feelings of true self-love. If and when someone comes along with whom you can share your life, their approval will simply be an additional source of happiness.

5 Questions You Must Answer to Find Your True Path in Life

For many people out there, walking the path of life is not much different than exploring uncharted territories. Many of us stop from time to time and ask ourselves questions such as: “Am I doing this right? How is, what I’m doing, contributing to others or me? How do I know that this is what has to be done? If not, is there a guide I can read and memorize?”
These questions are pretty much similar to those trying to reveal the answer that lays behind true happiness. If you are hoping to get a straight answer, you will get disappointed. Life is not that simple to be defined in just one sentence. If you would like to get to know yourself better and be able to find your true path in life here are some questions you will have to find answers to.

1. Why Do You Want to Find Your True Path in Life?

One thing is clear, you want to bring some changes to your life. Being honest about why you want to achieve that can provide you with a powerful incentive that will drive you towards your goals. Write down the things that cross your mind when you think of your whys.
Your reasons should be important only for you. You are a unique person with unique needs and wishes. There is no better way to learn responsibility, but to try and make your own spot in this world. Be open to ask for help and accept it, this way you can strengthen your commitment. You can always consider talking with a psychologist. Together, you can work on setting attainable goals and work on possible issues that are preventing you from taking the first step.

2. What Activities Make You Lose Yourself in Time?

Can you recall the time when you were a child and when your parents literally had to drag you from something you were doing? That child is still somewhere deep inside of you. If you want to give true meaning and purpose to your life it is time to wake it up.

Why Writing A Personal Essay Is An Emotional Roller Coaster

Writing A Personal Essay Is An Emotional Roller Coaster

With the ability to post anything online, more and more people are starting to write personal essays. Some of them are being published on big sites, which opens their window to millions of people. People across the world can read your essay, hear what you have to say, and judge you. This last factor is the one which adds a strong emotional element to writing a personal essay.
If you belong to Generation Y, you are already familiar with the way people judge you and your actions and how they say you “just want attention.” It’s common for people who read articles online to judge the writer for what he or she says, and when the article they are reading is personal, there is a lot of emotion involved. Sharing your personal thoughts and feelings with the world is scary, and can even be traumatizing in some cases. It’s like you’ve returned to high school and all those mean kids are still there to judge you and shame you — only now you are an adult and the world is judging you.
Are people who write personal essays in need of attention? Perhaps, but the real reason they write is to be heard! I am sure I speak on behalf of most people who write personal essays when I say we want to draw attention to facts, not to ourselves. Sharing a very personal story is hard, but when someone decides to do this, it’s always for a good reason, not just for attention on themselves.
Celebrities often use their own notoriety to speak their minds about the latest news or events. Take for example J.K. Rowling’s Brexit essay, or any other Big Celebrities writing the casting couch experience. Because celebrities do this frequently, people see them as influencers, but when the girl next door shares her own experience, she might be taken as someone who is trying to draw attention to herself. This might be due to the fact we are used to celebrities drawing attention to themselves, so when someone does something a celebrity usually does, the first instinct is to think they are in need of attention.

A personal essay refers to one’s life — a real person went through situations which left a mark on them. When the mark is deep, you feel the need to speak up and tell others about your experience. For example, if you had a bad past experience in your teen age, you will feel the need to share your experience so that other teens will read and think twice
before taking the next step. But you always have to accept the fact your essay will stir up mixed emotions and will turn you into a target for bullying and tough criticism. Readers will perceive your writings in millions of ways. They will often forget that it’s your own life they are judging. You have to accept this before even writing the first word of your essay.

With a personal essay, you want to stir up reactions. So, even if you receive negative feedback, you should be proud of your accomplishments. Many people can write an essay, but few can ignite passions and emotions in their readers, so when you see that your article triggers comments, you need to be proud of yourself. For a reader to take his or her time to comment on an article, they need to be touched by that article to the core — which is not an easy thing. Be glad when you are able to touch people in this way because it means they heard you. They read your article and learned about your experience. Regardless if they want it or not, a piece of your life will stick with them forever, influencing them in a teeny tiny way.

Writers, keep writing, and readers, keep commenting on our articles so we can get inspired!

Rishtey

मैं रूठा, तुम भी रूठ गए
फिर मनाएगा कौन ?

आज दरार है, कल खाई होगी
फिर भरेगा कौन ?

मैं चुप, तुम भी चुप
इस चुप्पी को फिर तोडे़गा कौन ?

बात छोटी को लगा लोगे दिल से,
तो रिश्ता फिर निभाएगा कौन ?

दुखी मैं भी और  तुम भी बिछड़कर,
सोचो हाथ फिर बढ़ाएगा कौन ?

न मैं राजी, न तुम राजी,
फिर माफ़ करने का बड़प्पन दिखाएगा कौन ?

डूब जाएगा यादों में दिल कभी,
तो फिर धैर्य बंधायेगा कौन ?

एक अहम् मेरे, एक तेरे भीतर भी,
इस अहम् को फिर हराएगा कौन ?

ज़िंदगी किसको मिली है सदा के लिए ?
फिर इन लम्हों में अकेला रह जाएगा कौन ?

मूंद ली दोनों में से गर किसी दिन एक ने आँखें....
तो कल इस बात पर फिर पछतायेगा कौन ?

Few unsaid lines

1) Empty room.
    Fairy lit.
    Swollen eyes.
    Silent cries.
    The time?
    It's post midnight.


2) They are not meant to be together.
    One is on other side, the second is on another.
    Though, they both complete each other.

   Headphones are the greatest invention, aren't they?


3) I badly want to talk to her.
    I badly want to talk to him.
   Then what are you waiting for...??
         "The First Text".

4) I love her so much....!!
    I wish to have her, and that time back in my life.
    Is there any way to get childhood back.


5) And then he thought, deleting "her number" would help him to move on.
    "I moved on", he whispers,
    "Another Lie", his heart exclaimed...!!