Attack is the Best form of Defence.

As the proverb says, attack is the best form of defence... You just can't sit in cocoon and try to create a shield around yourself , if you do so you are harming yourself by taking up the pressure of outside world over yourself and just not fighting back with them, if you do it on regular basic than people have a general tendency to consider you as a underdog as you won't fight back. If you try to become soft cotton rather than a confident person with pain, you need to become as hard as coconut from outside and as soft as coconut pulp from inside. If you don't  do so you will always have a weak heart, a heart which can't bear anything neither a bit of pressure nor a bit of happiness.